 suddenly wants to do all these new things in bed and is a lot more interested in sex than she was before. I'm not complaining, as it's obviously enjoyable and fun for me, but when I mentioned it to a mate at the pub, he suggested that maybe she's having an affair and that's what has got her so fired up about sex. He backtracked a bit and said he was joking, but now I can't get the idea out of my mind. She's a part-time teaching assistant at a local primary school, so has plenty of time on her hands and is in contact with lots of young, fit dads through her work. I suppose my question is, is it unusual to suddenly become a lot more adventurous in bed in your forties? We've been happily married for 15 years and while our sex life has always been good, it's always been a bit predictable and I'm usually the one to initiate things. Maybe I'm being paranoid, but now the idea is in my head, I can't stop thinking about it. I would love your opinion. Oh, please! My advice is, do not start questioning your relationship (and your wife's faithfulness) because of a silly throwaway comment made by a mate at the pub. He's probably just jealous because he's only doing it in the missionary position in the dark! And if you're this sensitive to a bit of banter, don't discuss sex with your mates. My opinion is, I think it's a giant leap to think your wife is having an affair. What else is she doing to make you suspect this could be the case? I'm assuming the answer is nothing. In long-term relationships, as you go through changes as a couple and as individuals, your sex life goes through peaks and troughs, too. I think your forties can be a great decade for women – maybe the kids are a bit older and not as tied to the apron strings, and you have more time to spe){kind=link}
My mate down the pub reckons this might be the reason our sex life has taken a turn for the adventurous, reader tells Mirror agony aunt Coleen Nolan
Dear Coleen,
I’m a man in my early forties and my wife (who’s the same age) suddenly wants to do all these new things in bed and is a lot more interested in sex than she was before. I’m not complaining, as it’s obviously enjoyable and fun for me, but when I mentioned it to a mate at the pub, he suggested that maybe she’s having an affair and that’s what has got her so fired up about sex.
He backtracked a bit and said he was joking, but now I can’t get the idea out of my mind. She’s a part-time teaching assistant at a local primary school, so has plenty of time on her hands and is in contact with lots of young, fit dads through her work.
I suppose my question is, is it unusual to suddenly become a lot more adventurous in bed in your forties? We’ve been happily married for 15 years and while our sex life has always been good, it’s always been a bit predictable and I’m usually the one to initiate things. Maybe I’m being paranoid, but now the idea is in my head, I can’t stop thinking about it. I would love your opinion.