 A few weeks ago, I was having drinks with two female friends in a pub garden when a male stranger joined our table and ended up pleasantly chatting to us for the rest of the night. The conversation turned to sex. Or rather, why – if they are feeling horny – 'men will always find a way to get laid', in contrast to women who, in his view, are more reluctant to ask for a good night in the sack. Interestingly, both of my friends agreed with him, saying they wouldn't approach a potential lover, in a bar or online, purely to get sex – even if that's what they wanted. As a sex-positive woman on a mission to encourage others to get their needs met, I was disappointed but not surprised. While I don't like generalising too much, I can understand why some women might feel this way. I get it; I've been called a slut (and worse) many times in my life by people who believed that my 'forwardness' was inappropriate for my gender. How dare I, a woman, ask for pleasure willy-nilly? I want to put a stop to this sexist way of thinking once and for all, and explain why single women everywhere should not just embrace their sexuality, but also hopefully experience how sexy it can be make the first move. I'll start. In November 2020, the night before the second lockdown was announced, I was at a gig with a friend. Having spent months without any physical contact I had an itch to scratch, but no one to help me do so. I had just hours to complete my mission: get laid or go home (potentially for months). I jumped on a dating app, furiously swiping to get some fresh matches before sending them all the same message. 'You up? I'm in a time crunch' was the general premise. I've never been a patient woman (Picture: Almara Abgarian) Almost all of the men replied in minutes; some asking where to meet me, others offering to reschedule appointments to make time for our potential rendezvous. I ended u){kind=link}
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A few weeks ago, I was having drinks with two female friends in a pub garden when a male stranger joined our table and ended up pleasantly chatting to us for the rest of the night.
The conversation turned to sex. Or rather, why – if they are feeling horny – ‘men will always find a way to get laid’, in contrast to women who, in his view, are more reluctant to ask for a good night in the sack.
Interestingly, both of my friends agreed with him, saying they wouldn’t approach a potential lover, in a bar or online, purely to get sex – even if that’s what they wanted.
As a sex-positive woman on a mission to encourage others to get their needs met, I was disappointed but not surprised.