As The Telegraph’s Agony Uncle, I weigh in on your dilemmas – the good, the bad and the ugly
I am in my early 80s and have had a wonderful life. But I know my time on earth is limited now and my friends are dying off or having a bad time of it. Here’s the rub.
I am in fairly good health apart from kidney disease. I am on the waiting list for a transplant, which could be three years away.
My children are very gung-ho about this, but I am fearful of going under the knife and to be honest I don’t mind going in for dialysis. I wonder whether it is selfish of me to take a kidney a younger person could have. Or maybe I’m just being cowardly about the op?
Either way I don’t know what to say to my children, who would want me to carry on as long as I can. If I got a nice new kidney then lost my marbles in five years, what then? I can’t ask you to tell me whether or not to stay on the list. But I would gladly give a penny for your thoughts!